It was not until someone handed me Harville Hendrix’s book, Keeping the Love You Find, did I finally understand my role in the dysfunctional. Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D. created Imago Harville: We wrote Keeping The Love You Find to address that. Keeping the Love You Find. By Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., ISBN 5 star must reading. [The following is what I highlighted during my read of this.

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He thinks that marriage counselors who si So far, interesting. It is altered only by concrete experience. You rarely experience joy or pleasure. To muffle the alarm, the detached child numbs his body and voids his feelings, vastly constricting—minimizing—his life energy. The exercises within the book are not easy to get through, they were definitely time consuming and intensive, but really help drive the points home and were very helpful in the self discovery process. The Imago bond creates a spurious wholeness.

G 7 years ago. In fact, dating with intention while integrating and working on creating a healthier me was the best part. Our sexuality is a highly personal and central aspect of our identity, and it plays an unparalleled role in our relationships.

All social systems view the individual as dangerous and constraint as therefore necessary. I heard those kind of stories many times about the trend of repeating failure relationships. This is an enlightening book but I also found it to focus on married couples alot which was not helpful to me.


Think of it as a map showing where the buried treasure lies. Open Preview See a Problem? Diah Lestari 7 years ago. Aug 02, Tony Moze rated it it was amazing. A Guide for Couples, which was about repairing damaged relationships. Your Imago match possesses some of your Denied Self traits.

Keeping the Love You Find | Book by Harville Hendrix | Official Publisher Page | Simon & Schuster

I am very thankful I stumbled upon this book. Who you are is who you attract. The partners in a conscious relationship educate each other about their childhood wounds.

By understanding how our wholeness was violated, how we were pruned and abridged—and how that wound affects our relationships—we can begin to repair the damage. Anyway, there is a ton of self reflection called for in this book, lots of exercises and the further I read the more clear picture I have, of myself! Initiate closeness; share feelings; increase time together; integrate positive and negative traits in partner.

This emergence of the feminine has stirred up considerable alarm and discomfort, particularly on the role-embedded males Jan 02, Ann Brooks rated it it was amazing. When he is home, he ignores me, watches Heendrix, and goes to sleep.

Often, when dialogue is used well, the problem or issue dissolves in the process.


Keeping the Love You Find!

The partners in a conscious relationship keep all the energy that belongs in the relationship within its bounds.

Partner rigidity and dominance.

All past angers and ungrieved losses will follow you into any relationship. It is supposed to end. New Skills, New Behavior: Outer-directed; generally asks for direction from others, distrusts own directions. Fear of Being Different.

Ostracism by peers; parental partner rejection. We mate, we nurture the offspring of our mating, we work, eat and sleep, and we play.

In a self-protective move to avoid being absorbed, his boundaries become closed and rigid. Feb 27, Sharla rated it it was ok.

This gift of grace is the fruit of discipline. Distillation of Childhood Experience.

Not at all; it is the path. Whatever your history, whatever your heartbreak, as a single person you are in an ideal position to learn what you need to know what what you can do to greatly improve your chances fiind finding, and keeping, love.

We resist change because to change means facing our own internalized self-hatred and accepting the responsibility for feeling unlovable.